When, in the 19th century, William James considered the question of how the world must look to a newborn infant he said it could only be ...

We spend out lives forgetting perhaps because the apparent truth that the self that gets pumped out into this dimension is somehow inauthent...

Ladies and Gentlemen, you may trust me on this: when it comes to remembering scenes accurately and completely, bottoms have it all over top...

But what has an ontology of duality brought to human relations? I see an ever deepening, almost therapeutic search for self as distinct from...

Say I have somewhat ruthlessly tied my partner in a position for which she was unprepared. Unprepared? Some might say that’s bad form for a ...

This is the text of a lecture I delivered for TES in NYC recently. It is only slightly modified to suit this forum. First the teaser: Join...

Switching from photography, in whose bright precincts I have spent most of my slavish devotion to the representative arts, I take you now to...

The cards and letters keep coming... I am having trouble figuring out BDSM culture... I'm very interested in collaring and wonder if you...

The following may or may not have happened not too long ago. If it did, you know who you are. Me, I didn't recognize myself. It was not ...

I'm into this idea that all one's drives in life converge to produce the bizarre amalgam that ends up being the unique contribution ...

Dear J., Following our most recent exchange I am very thoughtful about the whole matter of man qua dom and its characterization (both from w...

The engendering of humiliation characterizes the practice of hojojutsu and other inchoate forms of what would become shibari, and is implici...

A little while back I had a very fruitful exchange with a woman relatively new to BDSM and interested in bondage. She is fiercely intelligen...

Not so long ago, when I thought I knew something, I was wont to suggest that, once I’d relieved her of use of her extremities, the one remai...